How to Handle the Emotional Side of Job Loss and Job Search with Resiliency
Ten Tips and a Check List
by Al Siebert, PhD
Losing your job through no fault of your own can wipe you out emotionally. How do you deal with your loss of esteem? With anger? How do you sustain your energy for searching for work? You know that prospective employers are turned off by an applicant who complains about a previous employer, how can you be pleasant, relaxed, and self-confident in an interview? Here are guidelines for skillfully handling the emotional challenge of dealing with job loss and searching for new employment:1. Write about how you feel. Include all the things you would like to have said to your previous bosses but didn’t. Continue expressing your feelings over and over until you feel emptied. Do this once a day for a week. Afterwards do this anytime you have a flashback.
- What did you enjoy about your job?
- What do you miss the most?
- What do you not miss?
- What is one of your best accomplishments? What will you always feel proud about?
Job Loss, Job Search Guidelines Checklist:
|Write about what upsets you.|
|Do what revitalizes you. Enjoy pleasant moments each day.|
|Choose to have it happen. Avoid "If only…"|
|Find the unexpected opportunity. What calls to you?|
|Form a small support group. Encourage, coach, and help each other.|
|Bolster your self-esteem, make a list.|
|Add personal testimonials to your resume.|
|When are you at your best? What is easy to do? What do you do well?|
|Find value in what you are going through.|
|Develop empathy for employers. What is an ideal employee like?|
|Give up false modesty. Practice describing your strengths.|
|Be ready for the resiliency question.|
|Read articles and books about highly resilient people.|
|Make finding a job your job. Be persistent.|
|Stay balanced, expect to be hired while being emotionally prepared to be turned down.|
|Be open to unexpected opportunities.|
|Use your imagination, be playful, be bold.|
Resources:Don’t Let Anger Sink Your Job Search, By Arlene S. Hirsch, as seen originally on CareerJournal.com, a once off shoot of the Wall Street Journal.